It’s that time of year again. New year… new resolutions… that you don’t keep. But maybe if you didn’t make your own you might be challenged to keep them.
Last year, my husband, whom I’ll affectionately refer to as LL, came up with the idea that HE should set MY new year resolutions. I still had my own, but he wrote 3 for me and I in turn wrote 3 for him.
RESOLUTIONS I WROTE FOR MY HUSBAND
- more purposely planned family time
- less fast food
- be more romantic
RESOLUTIONS MY HUSBAND WROTE FOR ME
- do squats at least three times a week
- cook more
- more one on one time with step-daughter
Based off our resolutions for each other and what happened over the course of the year, I can list 5 reasons why your spouse should write your new year resolutions for you.
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REASON 1: GAIN YOUR PARTNER’S PERSPECTIVE
Allowing my husband to choose my resolutions, I got to see what was important to him. A resolution that your spouse suggests might be something he would NEVER say or bring up otherwise. Sometimes men avoid saying things that they want to change in an effort to avoid an argument. Consider it just short of therapy (no hourly fee required). Just a heads up, DO NOT turn the resolutions into an argument. While doing ours last year, it turned into a mini argument (on my end) at first, but ended up being a hilarious conversation. I recommend you skip the argument and just go with it.
REASON 2: MOTIVATES YOU MORE TO TAKE ACTION
It was almost like a bet or dare. If you’re anything like me, you’re competitve. Oh, you think I can’t do squats? I’d be in the kitchen listening to music, squatting at the stove while stirring the pot. And most men are sure up for a challenge as well.
REASON 3: BUILDS UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Your partner seeing you try to better yourself for them will make them want to do the same. It shows sacrifice and compromise. You’re taking into account their opinion on things you should do, adjust or change. That will surely bring you both closer and build up your relationship. It definitely had that affect on us. If there is something I can do to improve my marriage, I’m up for it and he was too.
REASON 4: THE IDEA OF BETTERING ONE ANOTHER
Your husband loves you. No doubt about it. On a scale of 1-10, in his eyes you’re a solid 9. A 9? Are you serious? I’m a 10! No, with everything I do, count the extra credit, I’m a 12 damn it!Something I would have said 2 years ago. So what could boost his view of you? Let the list he creates do the talking. Maybe he suggests no more pajamas after 11am. Or drink more water. Your spouse wouldn’t suggest anything to hurt you, only to better yourself, maybe in areas you weren’t even aware needed improving (apparently my bum was on that improvement list).
REASON 5: JUST BECAUSE
With your busy chaotic lives, you’re lucky if you have a conversation that doesnt involve the bills that need to be paid, your son’s conduct or your daughter’s NEED for a cell phone (even though she’s 11). Setting each other’s new year resolutions will get you engaged and talking. Besides, if you have kids under the age of 12, let’s be honest, your New Year celebration will consist of you, the hubby and kiddies and a sparkling “something” beverage for all. This activity can be completed while you wait for the ball to drop.
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New Year resolutions should be a team effort when married. Because your successes are FAMILY successes and your failures are because… I would say because my husband didn’t provide the support I needed, lol. With this printable you can set personal goals, have your husband set some for you, along with family and others. Finally, the last section is for how your spouse will support these goals. If your goal is to lose 20 pounds this year, your spouse should not ask if you want Krispy Kreme donuts (because I’ll take two if they’re hot). Now you can hold your spouse accountable for their SPOUSAL SUPPORT of your resolutions!